H. and Me

Speaking of H., as I did in my second to last post, I want to introduce her, or at least, introduce our relationship.  We have romantic feelings for each other and she has an ethical relationship with her husband of the "don't ask, don't tell" variety.  Thus, our relationship meets the definition of polyamory, and currently, it is my sole polyamorous relationship.  My other relationships, current or in the recent past, have not been poly, either because spousal consent or romantic feelings were lacking.  (K. is friendship and BDSM based; B. lacked conjugal consent;  and for whatever reason, I just couldn't get excited about C.) 

Both H. and I are married to others and our relationship is clearly secondary to these important primary partnerships.  I am very comfortable with my secondary status, but I wish for a more active relationship with H.  It will never be as active as I would like, because her lifestyle does not permit it; but, we clearly need to rise above the poly fringes if we are to sustain a meaningful and vibrant relationship.  Fortunately, there have been some signs of growth in recent months, both romantically and sexually, and I will hang in as long as the relationship continues to move forward.  She is well worth it.